I will be speaking about the romance of intimacy and attachment at one of England’s coolest and fastest-growing family-friendly music festivals, Pitch. Three days, 30 bands, 10 DJs, workshops, happenings, camping, solar showers, water, parking and kids under 16 free!
Dates: 17 to 19 August 2018
Buy your tickets soon as they’ve almost sold out – https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/pitch-festival-2018-tickets-42797931766
September 27 2018 – mark it in your diary! If you’re in London, hop on a coach (madly inexpensive) or grab a cheap train ticket for a day on the beach. I’m on with a number of fabulously funny and intriguing other authors – and a band, Shedness – so you are guaranteed an eclectic and madly stimulating evening. Oh, and I’ll be signing books. Antonella x
To book a place (gratis): BroadstairsLit
Devoted to his great love. Literate. Respectful. Mature. An advocate of anti-dickishness in men. Sincere. A genius. And the showstopping elegance of his masculinity doesn’t hurt, either.
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Ladies and gentlemen, my review of Michael Chabon’s new book #bestillmybeatingheart
“Weiss quotes the distraught partner of a sex addict: ‘I realize now that many of the things he liked and requested when we made love were re-creations of images he had viewed online. He is no longer able to be intimate. He objectifies me, other women, and girls on the street. When we go out, it’s like his head is on a swivel, staring at every woman who goes by. When we’re together in bed, he fantasises about the women he’s seen online and imagines that he’s having sex with one of them. I know he does; I can feel it.'”
– from my latest essay Sex Addiction: The Interface Between Insecurity and Consumerism
“And yet it is in this glamour or promise that Pinney locates the mirage’s transhistorical appeal: ‘A delusive persuasiveness that even men of science could not deny.’ This willingness to be duped by a beautiful delusion has its roots in that which Joseph Addison called ‘the pleasures of the imagination’. In the First World, the closest most of us come to a mirage is through unwise love, the illusion of union where there is nothing other than the refraction of hope.”
– from my review of Christopher Pinney’s “The Waterless Sea: A Curious History of Mirages”
“’He’d been masturbating,’ she says, her throat thickening with disgust. ‘At first, I didn’t quite know what it was – I kind of did, but wasn’t sure. And I gasped, shocked. I cried, ‘Gross! You’re gross! That’s disgusting!’ And he said, ‘Kiss me!’ He just kept coming for me. I left. It was only a short walk to the model’s apartment. I remember going home and saying, ‘He just put something on my face!’ One of the older girls – and by ‘older’, I mean 17 or 18 – we were all living together in a bunk room – said, ‘That’s his sperm.’”
– from my interview with Tziporah Malkah aka Kate Fischer in The Neighbourhood today.
“Were fairies, say, a species of half-life perceived only at a certain frequency in half-light, there would be no place for them in today’s gridlock of manufactured — and brain-altering — electromagnetic waves. Context, then, may be said to determine perception. Presenting mythology as a blanket in which cultures wrap themselves, Sugg writes: ‘This, then, was a natural world with few, if any, blank or meaningless spaces.'”
– from my review of Fairies: A Dangerous History
“Sociopaths also tend to be deceitful. ‘If your mother is prone to lying about things big and small, she may have traits of antisocial personality disorder, particularly if she lies for personal gain,’ says Odessky.”
– from 9 Signs Your Mom Might be a Sociopath
“Sadly, the inability to feel empathy, a benchmark characteristic of psychopathy, is especially destructive to an emotionally developing child. Any hint of weakness or pain from the child is criticized or invalidated unless it can be used to the mother’s benefit; consider the response of a psychopathic mother, who had married a known sex offender even though, at the time, she had a five-year-old child. When the child finally told her mother that her stepfather had raped her, her only response was, ‘Why didn’t you tell me at the divorce settlement so we could have gotten more money out of him?’”
– from The Psychopathic Mother
One of my favourite comedies, Monster-in-Law is the story of Viola, a duplicitous, narcissistic and very successful sociopath whose son Kevin secretly despises her. A smooth, charming coward and a weakling, Kevin allows his choice of bride (hapless hippie JLo) to do the emotional heavy lifting for him. Predictably, Viola turns her guns on his bride-to-be, wanting only to destroy her in lieu of facing the reality that her son hates her. Jane Fonda is magnificent as the vicious, surgically-altered, dyed blonde monster. #realitybites #truthwins #funnyfilm
There are people in this world who believe that money can buy justice / Always take a stand against liars, monsters and bullies because in the end, truth always wins